Treating

Addiction You might like to ask yourself:What is the function of this behaviour?What does it serve? You might also like to ask:How did it arrive?And what keeps it going now? Then you might like to ask:How much do I really want to give it up?Am I giving it up because I want to – or …

Diagnosing your Mindset For some, obtaining a diagnosis (e.g., ADHD, GAD, etc.,) can be very helpful, validating and liberatingFor others, it can feel damning For some, it can inspire change and learningFor others, it can provide a reason to stop trying Obviously, it is not that black and whiteThere are parts of us that take …

Resenting The Structure You Crave It can seem a little puzzlingWhy it sometimes takes more effort and discipline for youThan it does for othersTo get things done More effortTo stop yourself from daydreamingTo work through the fogAnd to feel you are achieving at a reasonable level Why is itThat it takes more effort than normalTo …

Baited, again It is not uncommonTo be caught in a cycleOf fear and excitement,To eroticise shameWhen closeness feels like danger It is not uncommonTo carry rituals and compulsions,Re-enacting old woundsIn an unconscious attemptTo master them But maybe the urgeDoes not need to be emptied every timePerhaps it can be transformedInto something that nourishes you Maybe …

Did I miss something? You notice details others missSee patterns they cannotStay absorbed in your interests long enoughTo reach levels of depth few achieve Which is a real dragWhen you are required to do small talkI meanDoes anyone seriously enjoy small-talk? There are times you can bring clarityTo things that seem messy to othersAnd yet …

Anxiety What do you do when all your thinkingAnd all your worryingMakes you so tense and so nervousYou cant sleep properly? What do you doWhen you feel overwhelming panicAnd you cant tell anyoneBecause the thought of doing so makes you feel more anxious? How do you tell your bodyAnd your mindTo stay calmWhen your heart …

Chronic Pain When you experience painParticularly chronic painYou experience a lot more than just a pain signal in the brainYou also experience distress: fear, anxiety and tension Mixed in with that distressAre memories, habits, patterns of behaviorAnd automatic thoughts, like:Fear that the pain will never go awayAnxiety that activities will always cause more painWorrying thoughts …